Because sometimes, a shift in perspective is all you need.
People will forget what you said people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. - Maya Angelou
So true. Isn’t it? Sometimes our feelings follow us long after an argument of which we cannot remember the cause. And the same is true of times we have felt completely safe and supported. We remember. We remember the warmth of the love and compassion that surrounded us. Now, let’s change the quote just a bit.
Your children will forget what you said,
Your children will forget what you did,
But your children will never forget
how you made them feel.
Isn’t this just as true? When our children look back at the ups and downs of their day, they will not always remember our words or even our actions, but the way that we made them feel.
When they spill a full glass of water just as you finally got everyone seated for dinner.
When they try to help you make cookies by adding half of the box of baking soda.
When they crawl in bed with you in the middle of the night pushing you to the sleep-deprived edge.
How do you react? With love, empathy, compassion?
Our words and actions are important, but what is more important is that those words and actions create a feeling of love that your child will remember. And they can draw upon that love throughout their lives.